The Mask of False Bravado
I recently read, The Paper Palace, by Miranda Cowley Heller. Eleanor, the main character, finds herself going on a search for true love and how to live a normal life with all kinds of crazy people around her.
Eleanor saw the miracle of love when she walked the ocean’s sandy shore. She said, “Every single time I see the ocean, even if I’ve been there in the morning, it feels like a new miracle—its power, its blueness always just as overwhelming. Like falling in love.”
She lived with a seed of hope while observing God’s creation, but she carried a ton of regrets. One bad decision led to another darker path. Eleanor remembered, “Ever since I was old enough to question my own instincts, my mother has given me the same piece of advice: ‘Flip a coin, Eleanor. If the answer you get disappoints you, do the opposite.’”
The music group, Player, sang, “Baby Come Back,” I believe represents Eleanor’s feelings throughout the book. On the outside Eleanor was a shining star and the life of the party. However, she wore a mask of false bravado. She constantly searched for the one elusive perfect moment.
All day long, I wear a mask of false bravado,
Trying to keep up a smile that hides a tear
But as the sun goes now, I get that empty feeling again
How I wish to God that you were here.
I like what Annie King wrote in her blog, “Toxic Positivity,” about social media, “Social media is nothing more than a highlight reel. We see everyone’s best days. It is a snapshot of life. A perfect picture.” Facebook might be merely a mask of false bravado for some; and this may distort how you see yourself, God and the people around you.
Jesus said, “I didn’t make this up. What I teach comes from the One who sent me. Anyone who wants to do his will can test this teaching and know whether it’s from God or whether I’m making it up. A person making things up tries to make himself look good. But someone trying to honor the one who sent him sticks to the facts and doesn’t tamper with reality (John 7:21, The Message).”
The religious leaders questioned Jesus’ authority and authenticity. They believed he was blowing smoke. He wasn’t. He spoke with Holy Spirit power and, as one who lived the truth. He forcefully makes the point how a person can live true to self and honor God at the same time. Measure yourself by having the mind and attitude of Christ. “Instead of each person watching out for their own good, watch out for what is better for others. Adopt the attitude that was in Christ Jesus (Philippians 2:4-5).”
God’s best plan for you is not to wear a mask of false bravado for personal glory, that’s toxic positivity. God has more for us. Much more! As crazy as this sound, real life is filled with joys and sufferings; hallelujahs and heartaches; green pastures and dark valleys. This real-life mixture is truly the concoction that dreams are made of.
May the Holy Spirit breath fresh life into your heart, mind, and soul as you put into motion what you hear from God.